I got an interesting question from a gentleman we all love who is interested in your, my fluffy readers, thoughts! After my last entry “Dear Slushkitten” and I’m afraid my next entry coming soon “Dear Rubbuh Fox”, this blog can really use some class – the class, maturity, and curiosity (without necessarily being “solemn or earnest”) that Bhaskar carries in his pocket and in his heart wherever he goes, I am sure, and certainly to every meeting…. Here’s Bhaskar’s question….
The question, “Is a serious question prohibited?” is not the question I actually want to ask.
My question is simpler: How can I use my sobriety to persuade newcomers that:
- their recovery is valuable and important;
- that they should take themselves seriously;
- that it’s worthwhile to be ambitious;
- and that ambition and dreams are not at odds with humility and being “another bozo on the bus”
A clarification: I don’t think that to accept these things means that one has to be solemn or earnest. I don’t think that this means that one’s ambitions have to be discussed with all and sundry, in meetings or even with one’s sponsor. In AA, as in the rest of the world, one chooses one’s confidants carefully. It’s better to miss out on a really good confidant than to make the mistake of choosing one who’s imprudent or indiscreet.
But I do think that one’s sobriety has to be taken seriously. (If you’re a step person, steps six and seven are relevant. They are non-trivial and they are tough — they have to be taken as complex, and taking those steps is a process that should take years, not days.)
I’m expressing an opinion as though I were asking a question, of course. But there is a question? How do even the newly sober (say 6+ months and greater) recognize this in their friends? Does being part of the fellowship mean encouraging people to explore all their abilities, or it does stop with “mere sobriety,” whatever that is?
I also write this question because I am interested in the answers of the people on this forum — they are the people by whom I would like to be influenced, not necessarily in the other direction.
Finally, although “Is a serious question prohibited?” is not the actual question, I do get excited by sentences like the truth or falsehood of sentences like “This sentence is false.” And I’m always delighted to discuss those types of statements — rather than sobriety, for example.
I do like the blog, its lightness and its comfort, its implicit but relaxed assurance of friendship and support.
We’re looking forward to your comments!